A beautiful contribution thanks to Ben...
When you no longer put your energy into seeking approval, you can open your arms to criticism and see it as a gift, instead of as something to disapprove or defend against.
Being honest and vulnerable ends the illusion of being manipulated or discovered in any way. When your genuinely humble, there's no way that criticism can hurt you; it becomes obvious, through your own experience, that it can help you. This is how clarity takes on life as effective action, so that you are kind to others and kind to yourself.
Defense is the first act of war.